Time to talk about something you have, yet take for granted... can wreck havoc in your life, yet easy to ignore...

... FRIENDS!

I don't consider friend someone who for example will be ignorant about something mine, yet caring about the same thing that is his.

Most often or most easily you can see it with money and materialistic things, however, not everyone is materialistic, it goes beyond too.

Further, I don't consider a friend someone who is not loyal in bad times. Brother, loyalty in good times is nothing. It's not loyalty, it's convenience.

To determine friends, you have two methods - one shallow, and one proper.

The shallow, easy, quick method is - ask yourself how many friends you have — if over ten, I can almost guarantee you you're missing some bad fruit in the group you call friends.

There ARE exceptions. Some of us actively work on finding, maintaining friendships, however, that's a red flag for 90% people to see they need to work on it.

Deeper is - TEST THEM!

Brother, you can test small. I test potential girlfriend by seeing which chunk of food they will give me - if she gives me the dirt part, she is not the one who loves.

People reveal themselves on little things.

TEST. And critically important, be OK, be more than OK to LOSE them as friends/partners/chicks...

If you're not, your tests are meaningless.

TEST.

On the flip side, there is good news this time brother Mr love has for you!

I heard this long time ago and couldn't forget it, it reminded me many times in life: "people you're not even thinking about might be thinking about you, might be wanting you good" - in other words, you might have a friend where you didn't even notice, etc. Seek to find and nurture those!

With chicks I'd think nobody notices me except the chicks I talk with. After this quote, I'd focus and realize so many talk about me because then one chick knows something that was told to other chick means they talked. And chicks talk.

The point is not the chicks, the point is, knowing there might be hidden gems you need to nurture, and maybe even not so hidden